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That's impressive. I mean, protecting your kids from your own hangups and problems. My parents never let on about their money problems when i was growing up, and I've always appreciated that - being able to grow up in peace, I mean. On the other hand, spiders? I am a big spider fan. And when I say that, i mean I am a fan of big spiders... I need to post pics of my tarantulas sometime...
By: Katy on November 20, 2013
awww. he was stoic! my dad was afraid of water and refused to let us kids take swimming lessons (kind of ironic...)
By: TexWisGirl on November 20, 2013
What a great lesson your dad taught you. I can face down our largest bulls, but spiders make me go weak in the knees.
By: Shelly on November 20, 2013
I think it's really great of your dad to behave in this way. It probably is the way to act in the face of fear, - but so hard to do. I was really annoyed when a woman I had looking after my younger daughter a few hours a week, instilled in her a terror of bees and wasps. It's remained with her. The woman was so kind and nice in other ways, and she couldn't help her fear... but I wish she'd had something of your dad in her attitude.
By: Jenny on November 20, 2013
And hiding one's fears for the sake of one's children takes love. xoRobyn
By: Robyn Engel on November 20, 2013
My son is deathly afraid of spiders. I always end up disposing of them, while his younger sister watches me with no fear.
By: David Walston on November 20, 2013
It's surprising how many of us share this type of behaviour. My father (as I learned later in life) has a particular fear of the dark. Any time my mother would ask him to get something from the car or outside up at our cottage he'd make up some excuse so that it could wait till morning.
By: Daniel LaFrance on November 20, 2013
Parents can be amazing people. Kudos to your dad. My mom told me some hilarious things about my father after he died. Three of the grandchildren, none of them mine, called him Paw-paw. He accepted it happily, but my mom said, Your dad just hated that. Love, Janie
By: Janie Junebug on November 20, 2013
Now you have me thinking. I don't know of anything my father was afraid of, much like you, but for sure there must have been something...I think he was afraid of failure though he succeeded at almost everything, there must be other things, but I guess I'll never know. Probably that is the way he would want it. Loved this post!
By: Cranky on November 20, 2013
Your Dad was an amazing man. As for spiders, they are among my favorites, and i'm sorry this one has to go.
By: mimi on November 20, 2013
A couple of months ago I discovered a scorpion in a bathtub in our house. I had no qualms about dispatching him and flushing his body down the toilet. But SWMBO said they always come in pairs and now we'll have to watch out for the other one. Never saw him (or her). Until yesterday. I was sorting through a big stack of record albums, preparing to sell them, when a somewhat larger scorpion fell out. He (or she) is now also . . . no more. Nasty devils, scorpions.
By: Bruce Taylor/Catalyst on November 20, 2013
The more stories you tell us about your dad, the more respect and admiration I have for him- as for me? I must have been a cat in a former life because I can catch and dispatch bugs handily. The only animals or bugs I am afraid of would be poisonous ones and humans. Have a great day!
By: Kathe W. on November 20, 2013
The house I grew up in had one of those crawlspaces. I absolutely hated going down there, always worrying what sorts of critters would be hiding in there. Dads are pretty courageous to kill the spiders, take out the mouse traps, and so forth.
By: PT Dilloway on November 20, 2013
I use to be terrified of spiders--they could make me hurt myself. I have gotten MUCH better but still think your Dad a hero being able to enter a crawl space littered with them. Quite a guy.
By: Akansas Patti on November 20, 2013
I have no idea what my folks were afraid of--they never let it show!!
By: fishducky on November 20, 2013
My dad was afraid to order at a drive-thru speaker. Yeah. He didn't SAY he was afraid, but he wouldn't respond. Not even to the "May I help you?" He would drive up to the speaker, but my mom had to lean across the seat and do all the talking. Dad would pay the real live person at the window, but he could not speak at the speaker. That behavior certainly did not rub off on me.
By: Val on November 20, 2013
I think your father came from a different time period. My mother, too. They grew up in the depression (and then WWII) and learned to be stoic and never complain. We're kind of spoiled these days, huh?
By: Lexa Cain on November 20, 2013
Your father was a super hero to go down there. OMG. Creepy crawlies! For my Dad it was birds. He was a big man who could be reduced to screams if a bird got close. Great post!
By: Bouncin Barb on November 20, 2013
I'm not sure if my Dad was afraid of anything, but I remember my mother being scared of thunderstorms. If one would occur in the middle of the night, she'd have all five of us kids AWAKE in the living room (in case lightning would strike and the house would catch on fire we'd be easier to get ouf of the burning house, I guess), waiting out the storm. I remember reading just recently the reason why so many people are afraid of or dislike spiders: it's the eight legs thing, our mind can't comprehend it. That's why spiders don't make sense to humans, so we dislike them or fear them. Heh.
By: Pixel Peeper on November 20, 2013
I think that makes for a very nice memory of your dad taking care of his family and not imposing fears onto you. Sweet, very sweet. I am like you that I prefer to capture and release bugs and spiders but sometimes the placement or circumstances call for immediate action. I might get out some aerosol bug spray and douse anything big enough to saddle prior to retrieving it. Yikes.
By: Cheryl P. on November 20, 2013
I was aware of some of my Dad's fears. I know of one that was passed on to me and it's positive. Just like you I always pictured my Dad as fearless.
By: red on November 20, 2013
I never knew my father was afraid of going out on the water until I told him as an adult that I didn't like going on my brother's boat the single time I went. That's when he told me he felt the same; but he had never let on. (I think some of those things are in our genes!)
By: jenny_o on November 20, 2013
A very inspiring story, it takes a lot of courage to overcome our fears and not too show them.
By: John on November 21, 2013
I think my father was like yours. But I don't think he shared any of his fears even with my mother. My mother, on the other hand, shared every one of her fears, jealousies, and resentments with us.
By: Mitchell is Moving on November 21, 2013
For a couple of years, I dated a man who was an arachnophobe and I had to be the brave one. Now I am with someone who refuses to kill them (which is okay with me) and sometimes even refuses to remove them.. allowing them to live comfortably in our space (which is NOT okay with me). Anyway, your dad was indeed a brave man and thanks to him, he did not pass his fears along to you. That's a gift.
By: Hilary on November 21, 2013
What a great dad!
By: The Bug on November 21, 2013
Another one of your stories that has touched me. And that doesn't happen all that often.
By: Bryan Jones on November 21, 2013
Similarly, there are tasks which naturally fall to me. Crawling under our creepy, crawly deck to do this, that, or the other thing is one of those. But, one thing above all strikes me about your story: your house would sometimes slip off its foundation!!??
By: Al Penwasser on November 21, 2013
Dad's are special, Stephen. I enjoyed this post! :)
By: Michael Manning on November 21, 2013
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