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Since a lot of fears are learned from others, that was smart of your dad not to pass along his. I have no fear of spiders - I also catch and release - but no way would I have crawled under the house.
By: Alex J. Cavanaugh on September 23, 2016
Snakes, rodents, etc. I guess when you become a dad you got to learn to suck it up. Probably just as well I don't have kids.
By: PT Dilloway on September 23, 2016
I have a fear of heights. Both my kids know. Yet the oldest one wants to skydive and get a pilot's license. I take no credit for those desires.
By: Val on September 23, 2016
(As far as I know) my dad wasn't afraid of anything!!
By: fi on September 23, 2016
Your Dad was truly a brave man. My Dad unintentionally made me afraid of heights. He fell off a scaffolding breaking a leg and I heard him worriedly tell my Mom that suddenly he was afraid of heights. I just over heard that conversation but from then on, heights scared me silly.
By: Arkansas Patti on September 23, 2016
Being a Cardinals fan, I fear that the Cubs are going to win the World Series and I'll never hear the end of it from father, who is a lifelong fan of the baby bears. Most of my fears are irrational and mostly just worry about stuff that I have no control over like the Cubs winning the World Series. I try to hide it from the kiddos but they are pretty perceptive. I have trying to practice the mantra of "Don't borrow worries." Take care Stephen.
By: Mr. Shife on September 23, 2016
My big fear is mice. I don't like them. Since mice are very rare here I don't think ,my kids realized I was afraid of mice.
By: red Kline on September 23, 2016
Heights. Especially so on a mountain ledge or building roof without a protective wall or guard. My work over the years put me in such places and I had to buck it up. Both of my daughters climb and hike in mountains and they did some seem to catch my phobia.
By: Tom Cochrun on September 23, 2016
Good for your dad for not passing that along to you. Likewise, I'll bet that there are fears that you have not passed along to your son. I'm fearful of small spaces and heights. When my son was very young, his friend who lived next door opted for his uncle to take his friends flying for his birthday. It was a small four-seater, lightweight plane. I was very nervous about sending my baby up into the sky in that thing. He was last of the kids to go.. final flight and since all of the other kids had already flown, there was one extra seat. It was offered up to me. I decided that if my son was going to die in a plane, I wanted to go with him. SO melodramatic, eh? We were both fine, of course. And I very much enjoyed it. As did he. He has zero fear of heights. Neither does my other boy.
By: Hilary on September 23, 2016
RE: the above reply. They did NOT seem to catch my phobia. Sorry about missing the edit.
By: Tom Cochrun on September 23, 2016
I think that was a different time when men weren't encouraged to share feelings or fears. Plus, living through the depression and them WWII taught our parents and grandparents what is *really* scary. People are too whiny today. They don't appreciate if they have enough to eat and a rof ver their heads. They feel entitled to that and now want a great job where they're respected and a car and 4 wks vacation, and, and, and... Spoiled.
By: Lexa Cain on September 23, 2016
My biggest fear is snakes. The scene in the original True Grit movie where the girl falls down into a mine shaft and is surrounded by rattlers still makes my skin crawl.
By: Catalyst on September 23, 2016
My fear is of fire, and i certainly didn't pass that on to any of them, least of all #2 Son, my pyromaniac child who took over the BBQ grill when he was 9.
By: messymimi on September 23, 2016
He sounds like a great guy. As you must know by now (being a dad yourself): Dads are courageous!
By: Tom Sightings on September 23, 2016
I really don't have any phobias that I know of. I've climbed an antenna on the edge of a cliff overlooking the Atlantic Ocean. The wind out of the north made is sway. I've crawled under houses when I installed phones for the phone company and swatted spiders, wasps, and gotten a face full of a snake once that was hiding inside a terminal. That's not to say I haven't been startled, but I don't fear them. But the road is long. Maybe I'll discover something.
By: Rick Watson on September 23, 2016
I may be cautious around certain things (like snakes and alligators), but I don't think I have any irrational fears. My mother is terrified of thunderstorms. One of my childhood memories is my mother waking up everybody in the house (nine people!) during bad thunderstorms, gathering them in the living room, and waiting out the thunder and lightning while muttering the Lord's Prayer. Luckily she didn't pass that fear on to me, because I now live in the land of daily summer thunderstorms.
By: Pixel Peeper on September 24, 2016
What a lovely story. I am the one who disposes of spiders in my house. :-) Greetings from London.
By: A Cuban In London on September 24, 2016
Wonderful account about your memories of your dad. I am ashamed to admit that there was a time when I could not remember just exactly what my dad looked like. He died in 1981. Thankfully, that is no longer the case.
By: Jerry E. Beuterbaugh on September 24, 2016
My mother had so many fears, still does, that she seemed happy to pass them on to both my brother and me, but most of them I've managed to work through, but not my fear of elevators, although unlike her, I will go in them.
By: LL Cool Joe on September 25, 2016
I remember reading this some time ago- and was struck by how kind your Dad was and also how kind you are.
By: Kathe W. on September 25, 2016
This was a great anecdote, I bet you have a hundred more stories like this - of your dad (or mom) doing things that seem ordinary on the surface, but they have a lasting and positive impact on you. I try to be aware of this with my kids, but I can barely take care of myself. Trying though.
By: Chris on September 25, 2016
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