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Nobody Holds a Grudge Like a Mother
Be glad you still have her around to gold a grudge. My Mom passed away 26 years ago.
By: Eva Gallant on June 26, 2013
Gaahhhh!!! And this is exactly why only two people I know in real life actually even know I have a blog...
By: Shelly on June 26, 2013
It depends on the subject, but it's usually not grudges, it's just a bit of a tongue lashing. Really, i'm just glad she is still here, so i don't mind.
By: mimi on June 26, 2013
OMG!!! bless you!
By: TexWisGirl on June 26, 2013
Parents usually think of their sons and daughters as children however old they might be, and your story is a good example of this. It made me smile! My Mum was the same as yours in her eighties, Stephen, the generation gap had widened too far, but we still loved each other as you do your Mum. I guess in the end it's all part of life's rich pattern.
By: Sharon Bradshaw on June 26, 2013
I've been told by my significant other that I 'at times' speak to my 'grown' children in a manner best described as 'parenting'. I believe I've improved on that front and can only say that our parents will always see us as their children. Whatcha think buddy?
By: Daniel LaFrance on June 26, 2013
Your mom wasn't Italian, was she? My Italian son-in-law was mad at someone for a long time over a small incident. I asked him if he was going to stay mad until he died. He said, "No. Until I die, & then another three months!"
By: fishducky on June 26, 2013
My mother can't picture me as an adult. She will never ever forgive me for marrying the person I've happily spent my life with, and yeah, sometimes there isn't much to talk about.
By: Kerry on June 26, 2013
Well she has a point really. :D My mother would say the same thing.
By: LL COOL JOE on June 26, 2013
My mother was a master and would talk years later about some betrayal by one child or another. Fortunately, I am thick skinned and eventually realized she would never change and that I was not the guilty party in her tirades. Although there were days...almost a week when she would not be speaking to us!
By: Tabor on June 26, 2013
i think it was Terry Pratchett that said that part of the purpose of parents was to put a few kinks into your personality so you could cope in a twisted world
By: dont feed the pixies on June 26, 2013
oh hahahah I have been in your Mom's shoes (so to speak) when I have sat aound the dining table with my adult sons and heard what they did unbeknownst to MOM! I could not get mad- I was just relieved that (one example) they survived jumping off the deck onto all the mattresses and couch cushions they had dragged out of the house onto the lawn far below. What amazed me is how they put the house back together - even making the beds back up and I never detected a wrinkle of what they had done. Holding a grudge and all that? Naaah and my mom didn't either. Both she and I were just relieved that everyone lived to tell the stories! and oh by the way- I'd be happy to mail you an Apricot Pie! Cheers!
By: Kathe W. on June 26, 2013
My mom died about 20 years ago. She's probably still angry with me. Love, Janie
By: Janie Junebug on June 26, 2013
If I had told her of some of the things I did I think she would have forgiven me. But I was never as ..ummm..."brave" as you to admit them to her face. Yeah, lets go with "brave". ;)
By: Scott Cody Park on June 26, 2013
My mother was a saint. My father could hold a grudge a lifetime. He could also hurt you very badly. Looks like your mother and my father would have gotten along nicely. Have a terrific day. :)
By: Comedy Plus on June 26, 2013
I find it comical that she pulled out the " you weren't the boy I thought you were." Fat chance of ever hearing another story...good call on your part. I wouldn't be upset if my kids told me of some chinanigans they pulled but there is a certain bliss in not knowing what devious little sh*** they were.
By: Cheryl P. on June 26, 2013
My brothers and sisters and I (well, me to a lesser degree because I am 5000 miles away) deal with the same frustrations and negativity with our mother. I try hard not be be like this with my adult children.
By: Pixel Peeper on June 26, 2013
I don't imagine that you are the only person who finds that a parent can not let go of things. With me, some of the things that were not spoken of came out when Dad was in his eighties and he had a good laugh about them. We bought a motorcycle and tried to hide it.
By: Red on June 26, 2013
Yeah, my mom blamed me for childhood indiscretions for the rest of my life. But you were a boy - you were supposed to sneak out. (Heck, I was a girl and I did it.) I adored the summer carnival that came to our town. Those were magical times. :-)
By: Lexa Cain on June 26, 2013
Oh your mother is a story all her own. Gotta love that.. and maybe dread it just a little bit. :)
By: Hilary on June 26, 2013
My mom COULD hold a grudge, but I'm her nine-dollar daughter. She does not, however, recall with fondness the time I termed the can of corned-beef hash she ate on a camping trip "dog food".
By: Val on June 26, 2013
I think our Moms could be buds. She is a firm believer in forgive but forget? Eh eh. I love this post. I spent the afternoon with my Mom, and quirks and all, I stopped and just cherished her, despite it all. :)
By: Carrie on June 26, 2013
I guess time means nothing to a parent when it comes to their children.
By: John on June 27, 2013
that's great. i love stories about your mum. she sounds like such a character. thanks
By: Fran on June 27, 2013
I love the post. I have to say that I totally understand where your mother is coming from. I grown children often talk about things I didn't know they did. Though the incident has long passed and nothing bad happened, I am still gripped with fear just hearing it. A mother never lets go of her sense of responsibility; so she can't turn off those fears and "disappointment". Funny, funny post. Keep writing them anyway and read them to her. She will lighten up after a while. It was just the shock.
By: Charlotte on June 27, 2013
Hmm. That's an interesting reaction. I think I would have countered with, "Why don't we talk about your childhood. Regale me with the things that you did at ten, and don't lie, because I'll know."
By: Michael Offutt on June 27, 2013
That's hilarious. I'm sorry, Stephen. Next time, maybe read her a Leave it to Beaver script, substituting your name for the Beave. (?) xoRobyn
By: Robyn Alana Engel on June 27, 2013
Wow!!! My mother DOES read my blog, so I have to be very careful what I say. But even if I were to tell the truth, it wouldn't get as bad as that ... usually. (She still complains about how her in-laws made her stand in back for a family photo in 1949 and she was ... "dressed better than anyone else there" So, yeah she does hold a grudge.)
By: Mitchell is Moving on June 27, 2013
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